friending

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friending (AKA add friend or the verb to friend) is a general term applied to the various silo user interactions with sites regarding reciprocal friendship. E.g.:

• request a reciprocal friendship (e.g. "+1 Add Friend" on Facebook)
• compare one-directional follow, e.g. on Twitter, which is not reciprocal

Jacky Alciné (7 Mar 2019): Twitter doesn't have a concept of friends, everyone is subscribed to one another's feeds; that's all.

IndieWeb Examples

Hammy Havoc

Hammy Havoc added a friends page on 2023-01-01 via the Friends WordPress plugin.

Silo Examples

Facebook

Facebook's web UI has an "Add Friend" button (originally possibly "Add as Friend", 0:22 The Social Network trailer). Clicking it sends a friend request.

Example of the Family & Relationships configuration page on Facebook.

When a friend request is sent on Facebook, the recipient will have to accept it to create a two-way connection. Connections can optionally have family relationship data attached to them.

Facebook will automatically have two people who became friends follow each other. This is a separate thing and does not have to be reciprocal/mutual. Either person can go and manually unfollow the other again without losing their friendship status. Even if both unfollow the other this has no repercussions.

Being friends means Facebook Messenger can be used without having to whitelist the other person and other communications such as invitations for events become more streamlined.

On the posting side the per-post audience can be tweaked based on friendship status. In addition, friends can be sorted into lists to make this filtering even easier. Facebook will attempt to fill some lists automatically, like those based on family status, location and employer:

Facebook also by default allows two friends to write on each others's walls.

Related

While related, simply listing or publishing a list of friends/contacts is not really "friending", as there isn't any kind of active UI / action that the user takes. It's more just another form of publishing. Examples / technology for friends lists:

• blogroll
• XFN

See Also

• XFN
• silos
• blogroll
• follow / unfollow
• https://twitter.com/dimensionmedia/status/992458815026196481
  • "i like this, has potential! 😀 "Friends for #WordPress" is a plugin that establishes a connection with your friends' WordPress sites by making and accepting friend requests. https://github.com/akirk/friends" @dimensionmedia May 4, 2018
• 2018-12-27 Facebook needs a ‘reset’ button for your friend list

  …my Facebook friend list has become more of a “people I once knew” list …

  (perhaps a criticism of current "friending" UIs in general, in the longterm, using current such UIs adds burden to the user)
• 2006-12-04 danah boyd: Friends, Friendsters, and Top 8: Writing community into being on social network sites
• https://fediverse.zachleat.com/@zachleat/110696973891314289
  • "@matt all of your friends are just one URL away 😎" @zachleat July 11, 2023
• "ignore friend request" is a feature on Snapchat as a way of declining a friend request